Violet Bridgerton, I want to make you a regency-era Hinge profile and set you up with a romantic dad who wants love again.
Through Bridgerton 3, we have once again seen the mother of the Bridgerton clan set all her children up for marriage, but more importantly, for love.
What do you reckon to my ideas?
I’ll start it playful with ‘Prompt 1’: Two truths and a lie: I have 8 kids who are named alphabetically, I have tea with the Queen (regularly) and I teach my kids about sex as they grow up so they know what’s what and who’s who.
No seriously, why has this mother allowed her kids to ‘naturally’ find out about the way a baby is made?
Don’t get me wrong, the edited sex scenes sprawled all over the new house between the Duke and Daphne are burned into my mind, but it is comical that Violet, a woman who has lived for so long, has not given them the painfully in-depth description of Sex Ed with a banana and condom that we all lived through at the ripe age of 12.
Violet’s love for love is adorable and one of the main reasons the readers are dying to see her find her own special someone.
I know I’m not the only daughter of a divorce who wants their parents out there to embrace their newfound freedom, but why is it so hard to persuade them to get themselves out there?
You don’t have to ask my 20s-something friends twice post-breakup to move on, and that’s the way it should be!
21-year-old-daughter, Leila says: “My mum hasn’t been on a first date since she was 17 with my dad and shows no interest in putting herself out there either.
“I can see she is scared of that unknown, but she lives alone, and she’s so much fun I know some company would add more joy to her life.
“It’s just persuading her!”
A psychotherapist who specialises in family dynamics and relationship trauma, Kristie Tse, shares her knowledge on why we want our mums to move on, and why they tend to avoid it.
She says: “Young girls often yearn for their single mothers to re-enter the dating scene because they want to see them happy and fulfilled in all aspects of life, including romance.
“Many single mothers also experience apprehension about vulnerability and the potential pain of new relationships.
“Additionally, the emotional exhaustion from a previous divorce can make the idea of starting over daunting.
“Mothers might live vicariously through their children’s experiences as a way of connecting without exposing themselves to potential heartbreak.”
But this makes sense, as we see Violet invested in her children’s quests for love, getting excited with them, feeling sad for them and celebrating them.
The portrayal of Violet being so PG, adoring and wholesome surely is coming to an end now, with all her kids now on the road to love.
This woman seriously needs to have sex, and then maybe fall in love, that would be lovely too.
Prompt 2: My biggest green flag is my wealth. I’m seriously rich.
Violet has spent her motherhood to date teaching the Bridgertons about loyalties, love and kindness to send them into the world a hopeless romantic, just as she did before she married the love of her life.
But as the world works in sad ways, Edmund tragically died, and I do think now is the time for Violet to find some new companionship for herself.
Just as I have been pleading with my own mother for the best part of a decade since she got a divorce, it’s time to do something for herself- or someone!
Prompt 3: Favourite Sunday activity would be dress shopping followed by a leisurely stroll up the promenade as I fan my face and strut my stuff.
Still interested? You should be.
The world is full of mums who have so much love to give, yet just settle on living vicariously through their kids.
I seriously think that rosy-cheeks and tummy flutters would do wonders for both Violet, and my mother in terms of growth towards a new self that is waiting on the other side of verifying that Hinge account.
I’m thinking a quick snap of Violet and Lady Danbury sat either side of the Queen might be a winning number, who’s not impressed by that?
For my mum it might be a little harder, so I’ve attached an image of her with me, and popped Kate Middleton’s face over the top- it’s quite believable, my editing skills are top notch.
No seriously, these beautiful mothers who have raised their kids to be delightful, kind and encompass so much love now need to use their skills and apply it to what they deserve.
They deserve some fun, someone to tell them how gorgeous they are and what I always kindly remind my mum is that she probably has about 40 years left in her- best not waste!
Sorry mum, I know you’re sick of this now. Best start swiping to shut me up!
Expert insight: Kristie Tse
A psychotherapist with a specialized focus on family dynamics and relationship trauma
