Is this another article about women masturbating?
No, but it is about dreaming of masturbating, or having sex, or dreaming about thinking about having sex. So I suppose it is, yet again, another confessionary piece.
But if women are finally admitting they are masturbating, admitting they actually enjoy it, I want to know how we let these sexual fantasies creep into our sleeping thoughts.
Maybe I’m a romantic, but I am always half a second away from a lovely fantasy of my dream partner, my dream scenario and romantic thoughts of such.
That being said, I am probably a full second away from that fantasy turning passionate and exciting.
Still not embarrassed.
It has to be said that there are disparities in men and women’s sex drive due to the hormonal changes that fluctuate on a daily basis for women, vs for men it is more consistent.
Dr. Farhan Malik, MD, a sexology expert, says: From a scientific perspective, a woman’s wet dream, also known as female nocturnal orgasm, is the experience of orgasm during sleep.
“It is triggered by the same physiological and psychological factors that lead to a typical orgasm during sexual activity, such as sexual arousal and increased blood flow to the genitals.
“Research suggests that women are just as likely as men to experience wet dreams, although they may be less likely to remember them upon waking.
We all know what happens in those dreams. It’s exciting, captivating and titillating.
If you were rudely awoken by your alarm you would probably sit up, a bit self conscious wondering if you shouted out in your sleep, realising the damp mattress beneath you, before you try to rock yourself back to sleep with thoughts of Zac Efron from the position he was lying in before your iPhone ringer went off.
Shamefully, it has been only recently I have dropped the feeling of embarrassment around my sexual activity and tapping into those emotional, bodily reactions that are natural. Let alone to then accept that those ‘wet dreams’ are also a part of your sexual experiences, desires and we should tap into it because what’s wrong with letting yourself feel good?
In all honesty, in this scenario, you literally cannot shy away from it because you’re asleep- may as well ride it out. Literally…
We all know that men have these ‘wet dreams’ and I think that’s why for the longest time I felt weird that I had experienced something similar because there is a stigma that men can experience all the sexual arousal in the world, but women shouldn’t – or shouldn’t admit to it at the very least.
But why? Because it’s less often? That’s not even true for everyone. All female experiences are different, but trust me, it’s just as enjoyable and not half as embarrassing as pretending like you don’t!
Expert Dr Malik described the differences between the two sexes: “A woman’s wet dream is often not accompanied by a physical orgasm, while a man’s almost always includes ejaculation.
“Women tend to have vaginal lubrication and contractions but not a full climax. Additionally, women also tend to have a less consistent sex drive that can fluctuate based on hormones, menstrual cycle, stress, and relationship factors.
“So, while wet dreams for men are usually a natural result of buildup and release of sexual tension during sleep, for women they tend to be more spontaneous and emotionally-triggered.”
Emotional is right, I’m in love with Bradley Cooper after last night’s fantasies!
Expert insight: Dr. Farhan Malik
A sexology expert and the Owner and Senior Medical Director at Prometheus.
